Question: I heard
your Bible study session Class 125, 1 Cor Series 12 & 13 on Husband & Wife relationship. (https://joelsilsbee.blogspot.com/2018/12/class-125-1cor-series-13-2.html)
You were saying
that, the Church/Congregation should cease the connection of husband involved
in adultery. What about the wife of him? Should she also terminate the relationship
with him?
Answer: I
am glad that you raised this valuable question.
We need to understand the Marriage is bounded
in Love, which is to be un-conditional. Bible says that husband and wife are
one body (Eph 5:31)
When the love between husband and wife
breaks, they start finding faults between each other.
Every minor issue is brought forth into
an argument.
They start blaming each other.
Bible says – Love bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things (1 Cor 13:7)
Where the lack of Love is there the
problem starts in life.
Here, in the situation of our subject,
The instruction for the termination of
connection from the congregation is the last step and not the first.
Apostle Paul says to ex-communicate
with that person. Recognizing him in the Church would not give him a chance for
repentance. We should note that due to this instruction, Corinthians acted promptly
and we could see the change of that person in Paul’s 2nd letter to them (2 Cor
2:6-8)
Coming to your question now:
Rather I write, here, I would like to
paste the verses directly in both English & Tamil. Pls read through :
1Co
7:10-16 To married people I am giving
this order (the command is not mine; the Lord Jesus gave this order): a wife
must not separate from her husband. If she does, she must stay unmarried — or come
back to her husband. A husband must not leave his wife either. I am saying this to others there (the Lord
Jesus did not give a direct command): a brother might be married to a woman who
is not a believer. Suppose she likes being married to him; he must not leave
her. A believing woman might have a
husband who is an unbeliever but he likes being married to her. She must not
leave him because the unbelieving
husband is made "holy" by his believing wife. And the unbelieving wife
is made "holy" by the believing brother. Otherwise, your children
would be spiritually unclean; now they are holy. If the unbeliever wants to separate from his
mate, allow that person to separate. A brother or sister is not bound in such
cases. God called us to live in peace. O
wife, who knows — you might convert your unbelieving husband. O husband, who
knows — you might convert your unbelieving wife.
[ In Tamil Version : 1Co 7:10 -16 விவாகம்பண்ணிக்கொண்டவர்களுக்கு நானல்ல, கர்த்தரே கட்டளையிடுகிறதாவது:
மனைவியானவள் தன் புருஷனை விட்டுப்பிரிந்து போகக்கூடாது. பிரிந்துபோனால் அவள் விவாகமில்லாதிருக்கக்கடவள், அல்லது
புருஷனோடே ஒப்புரவாகக்கடவள்; புருஷனும் தன் மனைவியைத் தள்ளிவிடக்கூடாது. மற்றவர்களைக்குறித்துக் கர்த்தர் அல்ல, நானே சொல்லுகிறதாவது:
சகோதரனொருவனுடைய மனைவி அவிசுவாசியாயிருந்தும், அவனுடனே வாசமாயிருக்க அவளுக்குச் சம்மதமிருந்தால், அவன்
அவளைத் தள்ளிவிடாதிருக்கக்கடவன். அப்படியே ஒரு ஸ்திரீயினுடைய புருஷன் அவிசுவாசியாயிருந்தும், அவளுடனே வாசமாயிருக்க
அவனுக்குச் சம்மதமிருந்தால், அவள் அவனைத் தள்ளிவிடாதிருக்கக்கடவள்.
என்னத்தினாலெனில், அவிசுவாசியான புருஷன் தன் மனைவியால்
பரிசுத்தமாக்கப்படுகிறான்; அவிசுவாசியான மனைவியும் தன் புருஷனால்
பரிசுத்தமாக்கப்படுகிறாள். இல்லாவிட்டால் உங்கள் பிள்ளைகள் அசுத்தமாயிருக்குமே;
இப்பொழுதோ அவைகள் பரிசுத்தமாயிருக்கின்றன. ஆகிலும், அவிசுவாசி
பிரிந்துபோனால் பிரிந்துபோகட்டும், இப்படிப்பட்ட விஷயத்தில் சகோதரனாவது
சகோதரியாவது அடிமைப்பட்டவர்களல்ல. சமாதானமாயிருக்கும்படிக்கே
தேவன் நம்மை அழைத்திருக்கிறார்.
மனைவியானவளே, நீ உன் புருஷனை இரட்சிப்பாயோ
அல்லவோ உனக்கு எப்படித் தெரியும்? புருஷனே, நீ உன் மனைவியை இரட்சிப்பாயோ அல்லவோ உனக்கு எப்படித் தெரியும்? ]
God’s main aim is to forgive the
sinner.
If wife goes away from a sinning husband
for the sake of his sin – She gets more disturbance in her life apart from the current
scenario.
If you look at the newly wed husband
and wife on their marriage day function, how happy and expressing their love on
each other.. Why the split now? Its all because of finding faults on each other
and as a result, either partner seeks a loving corner, which ended into this
situation.
Any sinner requires to repent.
Congregation is ex-communicating him in order to get him back!! And we saw that
result happened in 2 Cor 2:6-8.
If that person was not ex-communicated,
he will be maintaining his sin behind the screen but living holy outwardly
among the congregation.
Whereas, a wife requires to understand
her portion in loving him more to bring him back to the life what God
originally gave them.
If she wishes to go away from him – then
Bible instructs that she is not suppose to marry any body else till the death
of her husband.. else she will be into adultery !! 1 Cor 7:11
I hope I clarified your question.
Eddy Joel
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